Setting Boundaries

As adults, we have to set boundaries for all the youngsters around us.  I'm not just talking about how late they can stay out, and what movies they can watch.  I'm talking about the boundaries of their relationships with us.  We especially need to be aware of the need to set boundaries when we are dealing with teens of the opposite sex.

We see it much more often in the news than we should, men and women having sex with teenagers.  When men have sex with teenagers, it is often considered child abuse.  When women do it, it is not nearly as frowned upon, except by mothers of boys.

But, sometimes, this is not just a case of sex.  Sometimes (often, it seems, in the case of the women), these things start out as friendship.  Slowly, the friendship develops, until eventually, the friends find themselves much more than friends.

Women need to be aware of their friendships with teenage boys.  They need to realize that those boys are not old enough to set those boundaries.  It is the woman's responsibility.  When a friendship starts to become too intimate, the woman (or man) needs to take a few steps back and throw ups some walls.  It is  after a relationship becomes intimate emotionally, that it becomes intimate physically.

I just want to make it clear that when a teenager tells you that you're a MILF, your relationship has become too intimate.  Now, I'm not saying that you're not always someone's MILF, but when your relationship is close enough that they are willing to tell you so, you need to back off.  That probably means that you missed a few warning signs that the levies were breaking.  You need to throw up some walls, and dam up the holes, before the hurricane hits.